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Love bombing for a tween?

Six year ago, I  wrote about love bombing and this week, I read about it again in Psychologies magazine. A quick Google search showed up quite a few worrying article involving love bombing and adults; The Sun called it "a controversial tactic that often starts off with a predator showering their victim with affection" (but that is The Sun...). I'm sure for children it's still OK? Psychologies magazine obviously does. Its "inventor", Oliver James (author of They F*** You Up), calls it a way of resetting your child's emotional thermostat, with a night/weekend of time alone with them, where they dictate what is (or isn't) done. This unlimited love and control is then replicated afterwards with shorter, more frequent bombs. That mini love bombing is what I referred to when I wrote about it, when Master Humdrum was six (he's now 12). 
I'd quite like to revisit this for a tweenager. I do realise that he might well say I have to play Fortnite with him all evening, but I'm sure he'd get fed up with me being so rubbish and I'd probably affect his stats too much! What would he suggest? The last time, we watched Finding Nemo apparently on the sofa. (It was obviously so memorable for me, as I'd swear I never watched the film!) We have one week left at school before our two week Easter break. I'm going to suggest a day for the two of us, at his leisure/pleasure. Watch this space!
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